A conversation with Ram (the divine masculine)
10 lessons from Lord Rama’s life journey for our current time & context
Standing with eyes closed, head bowed and heart open–
Worshiping the idol of Lord Rama.
Listening to the chants and bells.
Smelling the floral fragrance of incense.
I am not much of a temple-visitor or an idol worshipper.
Nor do I vouch for historical presence of Lord Rama.
But today, I seek him within me.
Today, I relate to him as a man.
With his gifts, struggles, power and failures.
So, I started running, as I often do,
And conversing with the Ram within me
I call upon him—
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What if, you were to be born again?
What context would you choose?
A ruler or a professional or a slum-dweller…
What demons would you slay?
What principles would you live by?
What exiles would you take?
What inner wars would you fight?
How would you honour the grace of your Sita, trust of Laxman & Bharat, service of Hanuman and faith of all people?
How would you forgive those who rob you of your inheritance and separate you from your love?
How would you balance between the call for duty and longing to be with family?
Oh Lord Ram
Your principles inspire me
Your purusharth gives me courage
Your humility makes me humble
Your end leaves me sad…
Rise in me…
Awaken in my heart!
Teach me to honour every being–
Be it a sevak, a king or an opponent.
Teach me to live with and for principles;
To stand tall to honour promises,
To see every event of life as a blessing & a divine call,
To suffer with grace,
To forgive with love,
To be imperfect yet complete…
I seek you to come again
In my heart
In this new world…
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As I chanted and ran,
3 kms down the path…
I felt a distinct voice speak
Deep, clear, compassionate
And thus He spoke:
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Before I answer your questions,
I want you to get ready to receive.
You need to go beyond 3 limitations within you:
Go beyond form: Look within:
I am not a blue looking god from your posters or temples.
I am a manifestation of human potential.
I am a deep desire of every man to live his life fully
and of every woman to feel honoured and loved.
I am human potential and possibility that lives inside you.
You can only find me inside yourself.
Go beyond time & location:
I am not located in history or in a region called Ayodhya or some place called heaven.
I am a manifestation of human mind and I take form as per their context.
When you seek me in a particular age and way, you are not seeking me.
You are stuck in a story.
I am ready to manifest in your context, in your time, inside of you.
In that sense anyone and everyone is potentially my avatar, my incarnation…
Go beyond religion, class, caste:
Even though my story is told in a context, I am pure consciousness.
You can call me whatever. I have no caste, no class, no religion.
This is the only way you can truly access me and my power inside you.
Your membership to a any particular sect of society does not entitle you any special access.
I want you to pause and consciously cross the 3 thresholds I just mentioned.
Write them down. Read it again…
and then we will start with the lessons from my manifested life as you know it.
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So I ran more.
Contemplating on the the threshold.
I felt I am running side by side with Ram’s energy.
Quiet. Calm. Assuring.
Then as I looked at him, he smiled.
Still running on my right side.
He looked ahead and started sharing some timeless lessons.
He said that, this is the essence of his journey as articulated in Ramayana.
He left it upto me to find it’s timeless value.
I leave it upto you to receive it the way you want…
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10 lessons from Lord Rama’s life:
Roots: honour where you come from but not let it define your unique path.
The context, the parents, the family and the field in which you are born has significant value. You are a manifest of their longing. They set the initial conditions of your journey. They give you a name, childhood companionship and unconditional love. Honouring them fully is important so that you can evolve beyond that. You are beyond your surname, caste & inheritance. There is risk in identifying too much with those. You may get stuck and forget your true divine purpose. If I had got too stuck with my Suryavanshi kinghood, you would have no real Ram to connect with.
Divine: remember the divine connect you have with the Earth, Heaven and all spirits.
Take a moment to absorb this: you are an avatar of the divine. You are pure consciousness and your purpose is to live divinity in human reality. Remembering this will help you to go thru many struggles with grace of a true warrior. Remembering this will help you see the grand plan in all ups and down and feel compassion and gratitude for all— be is Kaikeyi, Manthara, Supranakha or great Ravana.
Purusharth in real world: this world, where you are born, is your spiritual field
I just mentioned that, as divine manifestations, our real job is to live divinity in human form and context. This is Purusharth. The inner journey of wholeness. The choice to live fully with whatever shows up in life. Its about understanding & embracing the inner lover, warrior, hermit, wild, demon, king and father inside of us. Wherever we are born and whatever we face is a perfect opportunity to take this inner journey of spiritual evolution. Your greatest service to me is to- go and live your life with great courage and compassion. In the end you will see great value in your exiles, wars, failures and joys.
Collective journey: your journey is as much as the journey of those who walk and live with you.
Ever wondered why you always speak my name with Sita (Siyaram) or Laxman (Ramlakhan) or have them along with Hanuman in all my manifested forms. Ramayan is not just my story. It’s their story too. They are parts of me. Sita represents the feminine in me, Laxman the fierceness, Hanuman the wild courage and devotion, Bharat pure love and trust and so on. Each part of my story represents a part of my soul. And each part is whole, taking their own journey, where I represent only a part. Making my story or your own story bigger and more important is the ego-stuckness that will derail you from collective evolution.
Gratitude: be grateful to every soul who is part of your journey, even your enemies. They all are there to serve you.
Manthara & Kaikeyi helped me to break free from family expectations and find my path. Shabri gave me tremendous hope and love in the untamed wild. And Ravan helped me in manifesting my full power and compassion. They all were significant part of my journey. When you feel deep gratitude to all who show up in your life, you do two divine acts: 1. You integrate their power and beauty within you and 2. You set them free from your script. Their job is complete.
Exile and separation: separating is as critical to your evolution as integrating
In journey of manhood, exile is of great value. Women experience it too thru rituals. This is when you are born again. You get to discover your true self and embrace the wildness inside you. Exile is often created in strange and painful ways. When that happens, honour it. It will be fearful, painful, devaluing, humbling, sad. All of that is part of the game. Embrace it and feel gratitude to all your facilitators of exile. In every exile, a king with a birthright to rule will die. After every exile, a King with a divine purpose will be born. Go on, my son…
Forgiveness: most important lesson of life is developing the magnanimity to forgive your self and others
If there is one thing you can take from my story, it’s forgiveness. At some stage, before you step out of this world, you may have a brief moment of realisation that all this has happened before. All the people you met have been with you in many lifetimes. This lifetime is an opportunity to seek forgiveness and complete with them. Forgiveness is complete and unconditional acceptance of our past and present. Without which we end up carrying baggage of grudges from one lifetime to another. Weary and tired. In every interaction, expand your heart, embrace the other, and forgive yourself.
Inner war and integration: all wars are only fought deep within
Real Ramleela (as you call it) happens every night inside your heart. There is no demon or divine outside. The Bali, the Ravana, the fear of loosing the loved ones, the struggle between duty and love, the loneliness of a father.. all of that lives inside you. Life is full of many battles within. First, accept this. Fighting a battle outside is pointless and of greatest disservice to humanity. Inside, there is only one way to win the battle. By fully honouring and embracing your enemy— the part thats longing for acceptance. When we give the Great Ravan his due and simultaneously stand for our truth, the battle is over.
Return and the trial: at end of all your journeys, you will come back and to where you started and will face real trials of life
Ordinariness has great value. It keeps us grounded in real. However, celebrated your heroic journey is, you will meet the real trial on your return. A part of you, pure, feminine, may have to walk on fire. Remember, your context is your spiritual field. It will test you and put you face to face to the ordinary world you are part of. Will you succeed in integrating yourself or not? Will you choose your love or duty? Relationship or principles? Country or family? What is the real success of a man?
That is the part of my journey that is unanswered…
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There was a long pause. He was lost in some deep memory. I kept running in silence. World stopped. My footsteps sounded like a clicking clock. My breath synchronised with earth breathing. My heart expanded and broke open. Sweat camouflaged my tears. Legs could carry me as long as we were quiet.
I re-called the lessons. They were only 9. What about the 10th one? Something was not complete. Just then He spoke again. From my right.
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That’s exactly the 10th lesson from my life- “Incompletion”…
Incompletion: my journey is incomplete so that you can take yours…
I fought whole battle to unite with my love but she left me. I vowed for her honour but was I able to honour her as my soul-mate? Why does my story leaves me alone? Why did I live away from my children?
My journey is incomplete. And that’s why you are born as my incarnation. All of you. Each one of you.
Our journey as humanity is incomplete. That’s the task for all of us– to reintegrate the feminine, the wild, the earth, the free inner child.
My journey is incomplete so that you also learn to accept failure, loneliness and melancholy as a important part of your own divinity.
My journey is incomplete so that you can take yours.
Wherever you are ready to take yours, I will manifest with your heart…
I am Ram. I live in each heart. I am a potential, a possibility, a commitment to take the inner journey of wholeness with courage and compassion.
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Written on Ramnavami, March 28, 2015
Published on Dusshera, October 22, 2015
from the Sacred Well